A "Secret" Every Girl Should Know

            It took a lot of failed relationships to learn that “cowgirl secret.” Oceans worth of tears, countless sleepless nights, and hours spent with gallons of ice cream and my best friend.

            Ever since I was a little girl my dad always told me to never settle for anything less than the best. I always assumed he was referring to grades or my performance in sports, and most of the time he probably was, but now I know he was also referring to men.

            Many girls today are content with a man who treats them terribly just so they can say they have a boyfriend. Another common problem is that after a few months a girl feels stuck in a relationship because her boyfriend becomes so dependent on her and she feels no way out. Girls in these sorts of relationships stay with the guy not out of love, but out of persuasion, manipulation, and often force.

            No one should ever feel “obligated” to stay in a relationship. Couple hood is a two way street and if one side is more dominant than the other there is something wrong.

            The rule listed in the picture is one that every girl should follow. It’s so sad to see a woman who has no respect for herself and allows a man to treat her any way he pleases.

            I’ve blogged about it before, but I think I need to mention it again – set a standard and don’t lower it. If a guy doesn’t meet that standard then he isn’t worth your time. He should treat you respectfully all the time.

            For a man to never look at you less than you are, you can’t give yourself a bad image. It amazes me the outfits I see girls wear to go to parties at college. They seriously are begging for negative attention and it’s pathetic and a sad reflection of our generation. Have some self-respect and realize that if a guy is only paying attention to you because you’re showing more skin than everyone else, he isn’t worth your time.

            You don’t need to be the butt of his jokes, you’re not stupid, you aren’t worthless, and you can do whatever you set your mind to. Never let a man, or anyone for that matter, convince you of those.

            A man doesn’t define who you are, that’s up to you. You don’t need to rely on him. Granted, it’s nice to have a faithful friend such as a boyfriend to fall back on, but don’t put all your faith and love into him because you never know the day you wake up and he will no longer be there. Be strong for yourself and love who you are. If you love who you are you’re going to find a good guy who loves you for you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Life is about searching for the right guy and in the process going through a few not so good ones. You’ll find the right one eventually, just be patient and give it time. He’s out there and looking for you too but you have to be willing to search for him.

            Jerks are never worth the time, trouble, or tears. Don’t let them have the satisfaction of knowing they had that much power and control of your life. Head high, deep breath, wipe the tears, and smile. Let him know what he had and what he lost and what he’s missing. You’re too important and special to not be treated like a princess. Find the man who is worth the wait.